Just stuff

While my brother was visiting his kids over Thanksgiving, TK was out doing something I didn’t think he’d ever do. He went house hunting. His apartment is nice enough, but he feels it’s getting tight when his kids are there, and he’s pretty sure his living arrangements with Craig are going to be long term. I worried about that for a fraction of a second, because it felt like I was pushing my brother off on him, but he was quick to point out that he likes having Craig as a roommate and this will help continue that, and he really needs more space for his kids. He’s found a few places he’s interested in, but waited until Craig came back to look at them.

We’re all pretty sure Craig is here long term. He had a hard time at home, and stayed for the most part in the house. He wasn’t willing to venture out often because he worried about the people he would run into and the temptations that would pull at him. Here, those people aren’t an issue, and he hasn’t created any undesirable places to hang out. He’s not working a program like AA, but he is staying in therapy, working with a psychiatrist specializing in addiction issues.

He’s doing well, and I’m proud of him. I never thought he would come this far, and I never thought we would have any kind of amicable relationship again. But we’re here, he’s becoming more a part of the family every day, and we’re hanging out.

His next step is finding a job. Five years ago he could have walked into a job easily; his personal life was screwed up but he’s always been damned good at his job, but right now he probably can’t even get seasonal work. We want him to wait for January or even February, once the holidays are over, but he seems bent on at least trying.

I have to support that. He’s willing to have the door slammed in his face, but who knows, he might land something really good.

I’ve got my fingers crossed for him.