I never thought I would see the day when I would feel compelled to have a required in-dojang seminar on sexual harassment, with the attendees all between the ages of 10-18. Yet, that is what we’re going to do. I don’t know if I simply haven’t paid close enough attention over the years of if the boys have become that much more disrespectful towards girls, but I'm hearing more and more untoward things spilling out of my male students' mouths, and I've had it. I have no say no what goes on in these kids' homes, but in the dojang I am the final word on acceptable behavior, and I don't ever again want to hear one of them say something so mean, intentionally or not, that makes the girls feel uncomfortable,verbally attacked, or defensive. I don't think that someone of them grasp that it is not all right to tell a girl to suck their balls to grab their crotch and say things like "you want this." I don't think some of them understand that their comments about weight, height, skin tone, etc, make the girls feel bad about themselves. But frankly, I am tired of it; I also know that if these kids are saying things to my daughter, the other girls are likely hearing much worse.

The parents aren't going to like it, but if they don't make their boys attend, they're gone. This is as (or more) important than anything else we have to teach them.

Alex and Kevin will be required to be there, but they already know what happens if I ever hear them speak to a girl the way I've been hearing the other boys speak lately. That is a particular wrath neither wishes to incur.